Okay girls, it's time to work on your "what am I looking for" section.
Here's the thing: everybody wants somebody who can make them laugh. Nobody likes jerks, creeps, idiots, or perverts. You can take it as granted that we understand these things. And even if we didn't, do you think guys are reading your profile and saying "well, I'm a pervert, so I guess she wouldn't be interested in me..."? Um, NO!
Here's the other thing. Guys, generally speaking, aren't nearly as adept as women at discerning subtext. Or even if we are, we'd usually prefer to exchange it for straight-talking. So, when he says he likes to stay at home reading Tolstoy, you acknowledge the reference to Russian lit, but you also query whether he has any friends, whether he's a shut-in or an anti-social weirdo, etc.
When you say you like to stay home and read Tolstoy, however, he just assumes you've got a penchant for Russian literature. For that reason, I feel that the direct approach works better. Say what you want and want what you say. Allusion has its place, but that place isn't in front of a crowd of people who can't be bothered to interpret your allusions.
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