Guys,
When you write the "first e-mail to the chick I might be interested in", it's not okay to send off a cut-and-paste e-mail. It's okay to have a general set of approaches that you will tailor to the specific person you're approaching, but sending off generic messages to anybody and everybody you think is hot is ruining things for everybody.
And, yes, I understand the theory: most girls don't respond to your messages, so you send MORE messages to EVERYBODY, and if you get one response, then you've succeeded. Classic marketing tactic. But in the online dating realm, all your blanket messages do is make women more sceptical of the guys who are online. It sort of works as follows.
1. In the beginning, guys with bad profiles sent uninteresting e-mails to a few people they were interested in, which the women understandably ignored or rejected.
2. Frustrated, you decided to increase your recipient list, sending messages to anybody that you thought was remotely hot or the least bit interesting. Since it would take a long time to write all these e-mails, you decided to write a generic one that you could cut-and-paste and send to everybody. Often, you wouldn't even read the profiles, only looking at the photos.
3. Annoyed, women began reading even FEWER of the messages they received, both because of time constraints, but also because they'd become good at detecting the cut-and-paste e-mail. Inbox filters came out, allowing brute de-selection of entire classes of potential suitors.
Result: Under the weight of cut-and-paste messages, ALL GUYS have less of a chance of getting in touch with the people they found interesting.
Seriously, you're just shooting yourself and all other guys in the foot with your cutting and pasting. Do us all a favour and try this tactic instead: figure out ways to make your profile more appealing, and your e-mails more likely to get women's attention. Women will appreciate it, other men will appreciate it, and you'll be more successful. Everybody wins.
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