I'm sure all of you have noticed the following, but perhaps the significance has escaped you. Sometimes the greatest profundities are those things that are sitting right in front of our faces but which we never noticed before.
Having gone through loads of profiles of both men and women, an interesting trend has emerged.
Men: Overwhelmingly, men limit their search parameters to women who are their age or younger. Perhaps slightly older, but very few, I've found, list themselves as being interested in women who are more than, say, 3-5 years older than themselves. As the men get older, their parameters shift slightly upwards, but still a large portion of men above, say, 40 are still looking for 25 y/o women.
I'll set aside the issue of whether compatibility issues will arise in relationships of such a great age disparity until my Part 2 post. What I'd like to query presently is whether the viagra sexual-revolution has increased this trend. To wit, are 40+ men even MORE appealing to young women now that there's a virtual guarantee of sexual proficiency?
Women: Overwhelmingly, women limit their search parameters to men who are their age or older. Perhaps one or two years younger AT THE MOST. Most interestingly, as they get well into their thirties, however, this trend shifts dramatically and they begin to search for men significantly younger than themselves. So whereas the 27 y/o looks for 27-35, the 36 y/o tends to look for 30-40.
I find that very interesting, as if to imply that a person's fear of the big four-oh overrides their typical desire to date older men, which women, as a matter of statistics, cross-culturally tend to do. A friend of mine was discussing with me the apocryphal theory that women reach their "sexual peak" around 35, whereas men do so around "18". Why, she asked, don't more 35 y/o women go after 18 y/o boys?
I'd guess that that happens sometimes, although perhaps not as young as 18. It seems to me that the less important having a serious relationship is to the woman, the more likely she'll be willing to date young when she's in the sexual prime of her late 30s. Women, any input?
2 comments:
You're absolutely right, but I don't know why. I'm known as the one who likes them young because I'll go about two to three years younger than me, but really, that's nothing.
There's another biological reason for choosing a younger mate (assuming you'll be with them for life). In an era with a high death rate, by choosing a younger mate, not only is she more fertile, but will be able to produce more children (one child a year) than a woman who is older. So he is more likely to have more surviving offspring.
From the female point of view, an older (but not elderly) male would be a more experienced hunter and would be better able to provide for the offspring, which makes them more attractive to younger females (which is why fat, bald investment bankers can always get laid).
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