Thursday, March 08, 2007

The Ultimate Casual Dating Quandary: S e x or Relationship?

I've been talking with people at work to-day about dating, relationships, and s e x, and although I feel like I've got a pretty good grasp on things (well, better than most my age), my world-view has been a bit thrown by some very unexpected things that I heard.

In order not to taint this survey, I'll hold off on the details and go straight to the question:

When thinking about somebody you really like romantically, which of the following describes your attitude towards the sequencing of s e x and serious relationship, by which I just mean a relationship characterised by "seriousness" and monogamy?

(1) Male: I wouldn't want to have s e x until we start a serious relationship.
(2) Male: I wouldn't want to start a serious relationship with somebody before we have s e x.
(3) Male: Either one happening first is fine with me
(4) Female: I wouldn't want to have s e x until we start a serious relationship.
(5) Female: I wouldn't want to start a serious relationship with somebody before we have s e x.
(6) Female: Either one happening first is fine with me

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