Tips for Women #24: Looking for a Real Man

You know how all of you talk about how women mature more quickly than men do? Well, it's true, I think, in general. As a matter of evolution, all humans are maturing at a later age than we used to. For whatever reason, probably social, presently the male mating habits (i.e., roughly speaking, acting like sperms) are deemed "immature", whereas female mating habits (i.e., roughly speaking, acting like ova) are deemed "mature". Add to that the fact that for the last several generations, many of us men have had absentee fathers (literally, or in spirit), and you get a situation where men learn how to be men from WOMEN, viz. their mothers and teachers. Hence the man-child syndrome. I'm not blaming women for this, of course. My mom did the best she could. But not knowing how to BE a man, there were certain inherent limitations to how successfully she could raise me into manhood.

Too often, however, I think you women are taking this state of affairs to suggest something about yourselves, viz. that unlike men, you ARE mature. I'd love to take your side on this one, but this idea is, for me, disconfirmed by my direct experience in this area. I guess as a guy in my position spends more time in the online dating world, it becomes more and more likely that I'll encounter women still suffering from SSS: Sorority Sister Syndrome. Here's my assessment: Whilst I'm 100% in agreement with you that all men under the age of, say, 50 are man-children, if you think that that fact implies that you are not a woman-child, then you're fooling yourself.

To illustrate my point, I'm going to proffer a new rule for all you women to follow.

NEW RULE: If you're the kind of person who thinks it's okay to reject people via the passive-aggressive "if I ignore him he'll eventually go away" strategy, you must change your "what am I looking for" settings forthwith to make your search parameters range from ages 14-17. Because that's infantile. Full stop. And if you're going to act like a child, you should stick to your own. Grow some balls and send the "thanks but no thanks" e-mail.