Is anybody on here really looking for a friend or activity partner? Most people say so, but I'm guessing few actually are. Every once in a while I run across the random person who's looking ONLY for an activity partner or friend.
Myself, I list everything because that's what I'm OPEN to. So I've met people on here whom I think are really cool, but whom I know I wouldn't really want to see romantically. In that instance, I'm actually open to saying "let's just be friends", and not in the dismissive way that people use that phrase to mean "I don't want to see you anymore".
So, here's the disconnect I see. You say you're open to meeting new friends, right? And yet you blow people off when they write you. If you're in a dialogue with them and decide you're no longer interested, you walk away without another word. In other words, some people are treating the online dating world very callously, and not at all in the way that they would treat a community* of people in which they actually think they might find friends (or lovers, for that matter).
Perhaps that's why pretty much nobody finds solid, lasting relationships online. I think I'm onto something here...
*I realise that my fellow bloggers might find this to be a somewhat hypocritical statement, coming from me, whom some deem the putative King of arrogance and callousness in the Nerve blogosphere. Can't be helped, really, as the proviso has been up for weeks.
1 comment:
Good for people to know.
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